Tracy – LGBT+DISABILITY, PRIDE WEEK 2021
The Commission for the Rights of Persons with Disability (CRPD) has teamed up with MGRM to spread awareness during Pride Week 2021. In particular, we are focusing on persons with a disability who also belong to the LGBTIQ+ community, since their stories are often the most overlooked.
These stories show that identity is a complex construct which is not defined by one single aspect but can intersect with other experiences, to create narratives which are diverse, rich and human.
I am 32 years old, queer and I was diagnosed with Development Coordination Disorder (DCD/Dyspraxia) when I was 26 years old.
I was a very clumsy child – I used to have a lot of accidents, and have many stitches to show for it. I also found my own ways to tie my laces, use cutlery and do other basic tasks much later than usual, as I struggled to learn how to do them ‘properly’. To this day, bumping into things is something I’m used to, and I have learned to laugh it off – with the support of friends both within the community, and allies!
A friend kept pointing out that I might have Developmental Coordination Disorder (dyspraxia) when I was in my early 20s, but I only got diagnosed five years ago, when I was 26.
Prior to my diagnosis, I used to get very frustrated at myself for struggling to do a lot of basic tasks, to the point where it affected my self-esteem.
I still want to learn how to ride a bicycle and find other ways to manage my coordination, but now I no longer get frustrated with myself if it turns out to be unsuccessful. During the past few years, I started enjoying cooking, but it’s still a time-consuming task due to my poor hand-eye coordination.
I tend to not face much discrimination due to my disability being invisible – I do however feel invalidated at times, but age has taught me to look past certain ignorant attitudes. I do tend to find people within the LGBTIQ+ community, especially activists, to be more accepting.
I believe there should be more awareness on DCD, because while it is very common, it is often undiagnosed and media visibility is very minimal.